"Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt. The servant fell on his knees before him. 'Be patient with me,' he begged, 'and I will pay back everything.' The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go. But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii. He grabbed him and began to choke him. 'Pay back what you owe me!' he demanded. His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, 'Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.' But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt." (Matthew 18:23-10)
Is this how you extend grace to others as a Christian? This is why it essential for us to speak the truth of the gospel into our lives daily so we can recall the grace of God to us. Unless we understand our state before holy God and the great grace he has bestowed upon us in Christ then we will never display grace to others. I admit this is a struggle for me that has brought about much confession, repentance, forgiveness and begging for strength to be gracious to others as Christ has been gracious to me.
In his book Transforming Grace, Jerry Bridges says this: "Having experienced God's grace, we are then called on to exten that grace to others. The evidence of whether we are living by his grace is to be found in the way we treat other people. If we see ouselves as sinners and totally unworthy in ourselves of God's compassion, patience, and forgiveness, then we will want to be gracious to others."
Grace upon grace,